(This
is the sixth post in an eight part series on the eight characteristics of the
MBTI. Find an introduction HERE, and use the tags at the end to find other
related posts.)
Feelers
are the gentle people, the ones who are easily hurt but wonderful at comforting
and consoling. They display more emotion, and they feel deeply.
Feelers
are far more centered on their hearts than their minds. Their decisions are
based off of values and their evaluations of how people will react or feel,
based on the decision. They are very caring. And additionally, they are
accepting of others. This is because they are oriented around people and
communication. They love harmony.
The
focus of a Feeler is on the meaning and the significance of information –
understood through their feelings. This can result in their tending to be
overemotional or illogical. One person put it this way: “F’s focus on
understanding and experiencing what makes things matter by understanding the
emotional value of things.” Emotion is key for Feelers.
Some
Feelers, though not all, may lack assertiveness because they don’t want to hurt
anyone under any circumstances. They communicate as being warmer and friendlier
than Thinkers do. Feelers are often very sensitive to the emotions and feelings
of others. They are also more gentle and diplomatic. However, this can also
mean that their feelings are hurt more easily. They are naturally more tender.
Often
Feelers will strive to avoid arguments, conflict, and confrontation, or tension
of any sort. They are generous with their praise and reluctant to find fault.
They worry about being an imposition more than Thinkers tend to, asking if it’s
a good time. Feelers are accommodating people.
Feelers
have strong empathy, personally taking on the emotions of others. They are
naturally compassionate. They value sentiment more than logic, and are more
interested in people and values than rules. This means that a Feeler believes
that “being tactful is more important than telling the ‘cold’ truth.”[1]
Feelers
see the world as it “should” be, rather than as it is. They see it like it
would be if everything was agreeable. They tend to be more idealistic, though
this is also based in J/P and S/N. They focus on the meaning, rather than the
use, of things.
Thinkers
can see Feelers as being “too idealistic, mushy, or indirect.”[2]
It is easier to see why people can clash so strongly when the differences
between Thinkers and Feelers are understood. Neither type is wrong, but they do
not always see eye to eye.
[1]
“The Myers & Briggs Foundation: Thinking or Feeling,” accessed July 9,
2015, www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/thinking-or-feeling.htm?bhcp=1.
[2] “The
Myers & Briggs Foundation: Thinking or Feeling,” accessed July 9, 2015, www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/thinking-or-feeling.htm?bhcp=1.
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